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It helps if we see life as a journey down a river. During the trip we need to trust our inner guidance to see us safely past any obstacles, rather than attempting to hold on to the known and the familiar. Failing to go with the flow can cause us to miss many of life's opportunities, which would otherwise be present.



Our willingness to surrender to the flow "inner guidance" lets us navigate our way past obstacles and choose the channel or tributary we prefer.

Copyright (c) 1996 by Jeffrey Staniforth


The dictionary tells us:


v. sur·ren·dered, sur·ren·der·ing, sur·ren·ders
v. tr.

1.     To relinquish possession or control of to another because of demand or compulsion.

2.     To give up in favor of another.

3.     To give up or give back (something that has been granted): surrender a contractual right.

4.     To give up or abandon: surrender all hope.

5.     To give over or resign (oneself) to something, as to an emotion: surrendered himself to grief.

6.     Law. To restore (an estate, for example), especially to give up (a lease) before expiration of the term.

v. intr.

To give oneself up, as to an enemy.


1.     The act or an instance of surrendering.

2.     Law.

a.    The delivery of a prisoner, fugitive from justice, or other principal in a suit into legal custody.

b.    The act of surrendering or of being surrendered to bail.

c.     Restoration of an estate.






give up


abandon, buckle under, capitulate, cave in, cede, commit, concede, consign, cry uncle, deliver up, eat crow, eat dirt, entrust, fall, fold, forego, give in, go down, go under, hand over, knuckle, knuckle under, leave, let go, lump it, pack in, part with, play dead, quit, relinquish, renounce, resign, roll over, say uncle, submit, succumb, waive, yield




Roget's Interactive Thesaurus, First Edition (v 1.0.0)
Copyright © 2003 by Lexico Publishing Group, LLC. All rights reserved.


These words denote the act of giving up one's person, one's possessions, or people under one's command to the authority, power, or control of another. Surrender is the most general: “No terms except unconditional and immediate surrender can be accepted” (Ulysses S. Grant). Submission stresses the subordination of the side that has yielded: “Our cruel and unrelenting enemy leaves us only the choice of brave resistance, or the most abject submission” (George Washington). Capitulation implies surrender under specific prearranged conditions: Lack of food and ammunition forced the capitulation of the rebels


Surrender” That’s a hard word for many of us. We don’t like to give up control of any aspect of our lives. This lack is what causes a lot of the rough places, trials, troubles, and missed opportunities in our lives. Like the song indicates, life is much like a river.


The River

Artist: Garth Brooks (Album: Ropin' The Wind)

Written by: Garth Brooks, Victoria Shaw


You know a dream is like a river

Ever changin' as it flows

And a dreamer's just a vessel

That must follow where it goes

Trying to learn from what's behind you

And never knowing what's in store

Makes each day a constant battle

Just to stay between the shores.



And I will sail my vessel

'til the river runs dry

Like a bird upon the wind

These waters are my sky

I'll never reach my destination

If I never try

So I will sail my vessel

'til the river runs dry.


Too many times we stand aside

And let the waters slip away

'til what we put off 'til tomorrow

Has now become today

So don't you sit upon the shoreline

And say you're satisfied

Choose to chance the rapids

And dare to dance the tide.



And there's bound to be rough waters

And I know I’ll take some falls

But with the good lord as my captain

I can make it through them all.



Yes, I will sail my vessel

'til the river runs dry

'til the river runs dry


We must surrender and allow the Creator/Great Spirit be in charge, our Captain (One who commands, leads, or guides others; The designated leader of a team; A figure in the forefront; a leader: One who supervises or directs the work of others; authority, chieftain, commander, director, guide, head, leader, lord, master, pilot), to be guided and rescued.

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